Women are always the guilty ones

Ilenny Nunez

Professor Santos

20 March 2015

Blog Entry #7

 

                                                  “Woman are always the guilty ones”

 

            This week we focused on hip hop and rap music but about women and most of the songs that these women used to make were more meaningful songs in the way that they used to empower women and now most of the songs are not like that is like I always say now everything when it comes to women it has to be about being sexy and being sexual, because why do you have to make empower music for women if you guys already have it all.

            On another idea today there was a discussion in class that I’m glad it came up, we were discussing Rihanna and how now she has basically adopted the nickname of bad girl after the release of the song Russian Roulette. I honestly feel like there’s nothing that we as women can do that is not going to be judged and we will get the blame for it. For example when Rihanna was dating Chris Brown at first it was like a fairy tale because they loved each other but then because she cheated on him and infected him with an STD that gave him the power to start committing domestic violence against her and the media made it seem like it was her fault because she shouldn’t have cheated on him. I think that even if I was the worst thing that a women do to a man that does not give him the reason to abuse her.

            I’m glad that she at the end broke her silence about in an interview because at first she was trying to protect him and all and even went back with him after he did that to her because she just felt so bad that he could lose everything like his career and specially her. As I said I’m glad that she realize that she’s a role model for a lot of young girls and that by going back with him because of “love” she was basically telling this girls is ok that he hits you and then you go back with him because that’s because he loves you and the whole aggression is because you made him mad. On another hand this reminds me of when I was like 10 or so that in my neighborhood they used to say “oh no because if he tries to fight with you, or starts throwing little rocks at you is because again he likes you and he wants you to be his girl”; but then there was nothing to do about it because it was a game of kids.

            Finally as I mentioned before I’m glad she realized that because even for me she’s an idol and I kind of love the fact that now she’s seen as the “badgirlriri” as she calls herself on Instagram because if you have to portrait yourself as being a bad girl in order to feel safe and that no one is ever going to abuse you than that’s fine. Also I like the advice that she gave in the interview F. love; you have to love yourself and honestly I think that if a man really loves you he is never going to abuse you either verbally or physically.