Blog Post #7

Gina Lagrotteria

March 20, 2015

Blog Post #7

Women in Society

            Men do not realize how hard women have in society. When something goes wrong the women are the ones that get looked at and get judged for the situation even if it was not their fault. People will always find a way to some how blame the women. Women face double standards in society all the time.

            An example of this that we analyzed in class was Rhianna and her domestic assault incident with her boyfriend at the time Chris Brown. Rhianna is someone who previously had domestic violence insists in her life prior to it happening to her personally. When it first came out that Chris Brown was beating on her, people automatically looked at Rhianna and said “Oh she gave him an STD , she deserved it”. Like excuse me? He just beat on women and she, the victim, is the one getting the blame for him? No one deserves to be in a domestic assault incident, no matter the circumstance.

            Even after the new came out of Brown assaulting on her, she continued to stay with him for a period time. She obviously got judged a lot for staying with a guy that assaulted on her and stood beside him and defended him but after a little while ago, she left him. The reason that she ended up leaving him in the end is she wanted to be a role model and help girls that have gone through the same thing or are going to go throw it. She said that even though he may never lay a hand on me again, I would not be a good role model for all the girls that looked up to me because they may go back to their partners and end up seriously hurt. This is something that I respect about Rhianna. She not only made this choice to get out of the relationship that was once abusive for herself but for other women that look up to her that might be going through the same decision.

            After having the class discussion of how people always find a way to blame the women, it brought up a story of someone I know personally and how she stood up for herself but in the end she was the one that was tortured for it. This girl got into an unhealthy relationship with a guy and he mentally and physically abused her. She continued to stay with him, even though the people that knew her the best tried everything to make her realize that this relationship was no good for her and she needed to leave it. After months of continuing to stay in this unhealthy relationship, she finally did try to leave but it turned out to be more negative than positive. So the only way she was able to get herself out of the situation was to putting a restraining order in place. When she did do that, she got threatened and harassed because everyone knew him, as he was a football star. How dare she put a restraining on the star football player.  Everyone thought she was crazy and was looking for attention as she toke it to that extreme. Can a woman protect herself without being judged or harassed for it? I really do not think so. I think that is so sad to think about. How did we get to the point that girls cannot protect themselves and not get the blame somehow in any situation?